Yes, I know I write about this topic so much, but take a look around. Isn’t fear guiding our politics, our decisions and our lives in so many ways? Can we pause and take a deeper look without judgment? I have become so aware of layers of fear, how it moves through my life and the lives of my clients, friends and people along the way. I have looked at it from many angles and there is always more to uncover and learn. At the same time, a corresponding theme keeps arising in my life – confronting the guardian at the gate. He is gatekeeper to the deepest secrets of my being; the secrets I have been hiding from myself in order survive and to fit into this world. Fear and the Guardian are one. An image arises of a inclining road leading to a massive gate beyond which lives my soul where I must confront the guardian before I can pass through. My journey in this human form moves me down the road towards that gate, but only if my courage holds. Though terrifying, he is my friend really, testing me, helping me to complete my heroine’s journey.
We want to fit in. Whether you admit it or not, our deepest human need is to belong and we play that out through our egos every day. Our ego is our social fear system, it is there to ensure we belong and a huge part of belonging is status. Every tribe has a different system and/or rules about status and when we choose our tribe, we can’t help but accommodate that system. If we do it well, we choose a tribe with a status system that meets our values and brings meaning to our lives. Sometimes we fall into incompatible tribes – like a family, or a job – where our values are not a match at all. In doing so, we often learn our greatest lessons – a journey of discovery. It is pointless to beat ourselves up over this reality about our humanity, of needing to belong. Inner criticism doesn’t change the reality or help us make better choices around where to belong. We all need to belong somewhere. But there is a deeper truth as well. This is the one we often fear the most because we are terrified of risking the loss of our tribe and the identity which goes with it.
The deeper truth is our soul calling, “come home, come home.” This journey home requires us to leave behind almost everything our ego’s hold onto. Fear, as guardian will not let us pass until we do. How do we square up the two – the need to belong with the need to come home to our soul? Well, that is our saga isn’t it? And Fear plays his part so very well, entering every juncture and transition along the way. I‘ve learned, it is just better to accept, understand and honor him rather than fight him. Discerning is the hard part – but when it is your soul calling, that is a good sign to move through your fear. Need help with that? I work to empower you to trust your calling and your wisdom.
May your journey be exactly what you need.
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